Project in Lagos a secret part of her life to help out young girls
at the project.
Lola revealed that when she was in her secondary school days,
she was molested by a priest and she could not tell anyone in
her family.
Lola Omotayo
She said that the situation repeated itself in a former
relationship before finally meeting Peter of P-Square and then
getting married.
Excerpts of her speech below…
“You shouldn’t let your past determine what your destiny will be, we
all have our past whether good or bad or makes us unhappy, we all
had a life that we lived that we are not happy about, you shouldn’t
let it bother you from succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school, I was
molested by a catholic priest, i blamed myself, i didn’t tell anyone
because i was ashamed, couldn’t tell anyone cos i felt everyone
would blame me, so i carried on the guilt and bitterness with me for
years. I was filled with hate and i became a angry person, i was
rebellious, i didn’t want to listen to anybody…and because i wanted
to be expelled from school to avoid seeing this person, i would do so
many terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, i
felt i wasn’t good enough….
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life and i’m
like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me…and then he started to abuse
me….i was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in
public and at a point i felt, you know what I am not worthy enough,
there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but i hid
this from my family….i felt like a loser..so it was hard for me to
focus..so one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story
and i dumped that person, focus on my education and decided to be
serious and be something….i decided to get a job and go to school
full time in America…
I worked hard…my parents were sending me money cos I didn’t tell
them i was working but i was working because i wanted to be
independent…I didn’t want to depend on any man or on my parents
even though they would have done anything for me…so i did all sorts
of job, i was a make up artiste, i worked in a cafe, school library, i
did so many things and i didn’t realise that these jobs were building
me up as a person, building my resume, my confidence….people
began to like me because i was adding value to their lives….at work i
was excellent and so was i in school and that built me as a strong
woman…and at some point, i sought counseling to get over my
molestation issues where i was made to see reasons why i wasn’t at
fault cos i was a child then…today I am accomplished.
You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to believe
in yourself, if they reject you today, it doesn’t mean you should let
your dreams die, you have something unique about you.
Look at my husband, when i met him peeps were like what are you
doing with him, he has nothing but i stood my ground and choose to
stick with him cos he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not
let their dream die, they worked hard..look at them today! I stuck by
him cos he had focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good
life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can
make you a loser.”
Lola is married to Peter Okoye of the P-square fame, they have
two kids together.
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