MATRIMONIAL DISPUTE. My story.

My name is sophia and I have been
married for the past 9 yrs
I'm blessed with 3 kids( 2boys and a girl)
and I have the most amazing hubby..
I'm trying to correct the notion that all
marriages are wacky and all because that's
not true..
It wouldn't be nice if some single girls out
there don't get to know that marriages can
work if u make it happen
I got married 9yrs ago to my hubby
We dated for a year and got married..
My friends were like it was too soon since
we barely know our selves
I was staying in abuja while him in lagos
I just come occasionally to visit him
So after a year
We figured it was time to move to the
next level which was very amazing..
We got married and I started living the life
of a married woman..
We loved each other so much but their
were things we did not know about each
other since it was long distance hence
posed a problem for us..
I had very bad mouth as of that time..
I do like to challenge everyone including
him
Which he didn't like..
We argued a lot which ends up with
several beatings..
The first time my hubby hit me
I ran to my aunt's place and later went
back home
It happened again and again
But the whole thing was after the beating
He comes back to say sorry and to tell me
how the things I said to him really did hurt
and how he's hot tempered and I'm hot
tempered and all...
After a year
I told my self I had to work on my self
I stopped talking too much
Prayed more often and asked God to help
me with my temper
I stopped challenging him and always make
him feel more than superior to me
Like magic
The whole fighting stopped
I took in and gave birth to our twin boys
the second year
I was so engrossed with taking care of the
babies that I forgot to give my hubby the
attention he deserved...
When my babies were 5 month old
I went through my hubby's fone for the
first time and I found out he was cheating
on me..
The girl in question was supposed to be a
family friend but she started sleeping with
my husband..
I went thru the whole bbm chat and saw
the way the girl started flirting with my
hubby and how he tried to resist and how
he finally fell for her tricks
I was mad
I was raged but at the same time I was
determined to be calmed about the whole
thing..
I didn't mention it to him when he came
to pick up his fone cos I would have
insulted him and said so many hurtful
things to him
So I pretended like I saw nothing..
The next day
I started jogging with some neighbours
After 2weeks I got a treadmill and started
using at home..
I was still running in the morning and using
the treadmill at night.. After 3 months
I lost the whole baby fat coming back to
60kg which was my initial weight..
I didn't give up
I kept trying to look fit and everything..
One night
My hubby came to me saying we needed
to talk
I was like hope there is no problem? He
said there is!
And I was like lemme hear it
He then opened up to me about his affairs
with that girl..
Told me everything that happened
Even went ahead to show me the whole
chat and how he ended it with the girl and
how she's still calling back and begging for
more
Of course she was gonna beg for more
My hubby is well endowed and gifted (LoL)
He was crying and apologising but I told
him he shouldn't worry
That it was all my fault
I forgot about him and he saw attention
some where else..
We made up and after 2 days
He got me a car out of guilt but I told him
to stop worrying but I still liked the fact
that he got me the car
It was my dream car
We started enjoying our lives the way it
was before
Going to the movies
Club
Hanging out
I gave him all my attention
Even after I gave birth to my baby girl 3yrs
later
He didn't cheat on me bcos I made sure I
didn't stop been a mother
A wife
A lover and friend
As usual
I started exercising again and went back to
my body 4months after my baby was born
We were so blessed
Work was going fine
Home was fine
Now when I say
"Home was fine"
It didn't mean we were not quarreling
We were but I just made sure if I was
gonna quarrel about anything,it was gonna
be something worth it and I tried as much
as possible not to be harsh or rude..
There was a time we quarrelled and
couldn't reconcile immediately like usual
and I went out to tell a male friend of mine
not knowing that was the last thing I
should be doing
The guy was advising me and I felt he was
nice
One day
The same talk came up between me and
my hubby
When we couldn't reconcile
I drove of to that guy's house..
He consoled me and started kissing me..
I was kissing him back and it suddenly
dawned on me,he's not my husband
I couldn't do that to my hubby
I pushed him off and drove back home
Told my hubby he won and told him how I
kissed someone else and he told me he
understands
So we'd drop the case even if I was right
Deleted the guy as a friend and worked on
my marriage..
Since then
We don't stay mad at each other more
than 10mins..
My friends come to the house and they are
like
I envy ur marriage
That we still act as newly weds and all
But what they don't know is its not easy
getting ur family 2geda
Its so hard been a friend
Lover
Best friend
Mistress
Mother
Wife
Sister all in one..
I'm from a broken home so I know what I
and my sister went thru and I didn't want
that for my kids..
So I had to fight to make my home work
I got married when I was 18 and right now
27
But when u see me I look 24
People never believe I'm 27 or a mother
cos I made sure I kept my self looking
good..
My hubby doesn't like the whole idea of
wrapper or anything so I don't have one
except for meetings
I dress in my bum shorts
Mini skirts
Short dresses
Anything to keep me looking good
So at this point I'm going to say
Ladies:
1. Marriage is not easy
2. Don't go into marriage expecting so
much
3. Don't think ur marriage would not have
problems
They will always have
What makes u a woman is the ability to
handle it
4. Make ur partner ur friend
Best friend
Lover
Husband
Father
Brother
With that
he can open up to u all the time
5. Never loose urself because u are
married
He loved what he saw that's why he
married u
Try not to go away from that
6. Never share ur problems with anyone
except ur very sure the person wishes u
well cos if u share it with the wrong person
U would get the wrong advice from them
Handle ur problems within sometimes
7. Do not argue with ur hubby
Let him win if u see its gonna pose as a
problem
8. For those with sharp mouth
Trim it
That's the one thing men hate
It took me time to learn
So please and please
Never challenge ur hubby cos it would
make him feel he's not in control and men
like feeling they are in control even when
actually
Its the women who are in control
9. Talk to him all the time
Appreciate anything he does and
encourage him
10. Don't forget to make God ur number
one..
Don't joke with prayers
It never fails

INTEGRITY MADE THE WAY.

Rotimi had come under tremendous pressure. He didn’t know what to do, he was confused, perplexed and if he could would want to run
away.
A hard working young man, age 31, works as procurement manager of a leading manufacturing company in Lagos. This young man
from an average background is the only child of his parents. It took his parents eight years to have him and many efforts to have
other kids after him had proved abortive. He is the only child and the most precious subject in the life of his parents.
He was born and raised in Ilorin; his father was a principal at a federal government college and his mother a primary school teacher.
They worked very hard to raise him and train him and after becoming a graduate and securing a master’s degree five years ago, he
secured this job as a buyer and was subsequently promoted to the level of a procurement manager.
The company he worked for is a very successful world class multinational with global presence.
Rotimi was in charge of procuring spare parts and lubricants for the factory; this is a multi-billion naira buying budget and he was
directly responsible; he was as it is ,in charge!
For about four years Rotimi has been under serious pressure from his parents to get married as quickly as possible. His parents were
very anxious about having grandchildren considering he’s the only child hence, they wouldn’t let him rest.
Rotimi a very serious minded man, loves his job and wouldn’t toy with it, he hopes one day to become the managing director of that
multinational hence, he’s really focused on his job and keeps shunning other distractions.
Despite the pressure from his parents; he’s never taken seriously the issue of women or that need to be married too soon. He believed
he needed time to sort out many other priorities relevant to his ambition in career and he wouldn’t settle down till he’s done.
Rotimi wouldn’t hang out with the boys after work; he resumes at work pretty early and would not leave till very late at night. He
didn’t party, didn’t club, didn’t hang out and had only one friend who is also a colleague.
About 18 months ago, Rotimi was invited by this his friend and collogue to attend a wedding of another colleague and because this
female colleague was quite nice and had invited Rotimi personally, he decided to go; attending this wedding occasion marked the
beginning of the pressure he’s facing today.
At the after party of that wedding, Rotimi was introduced to Nike, a very beautiful and attractive young lady. Nike was 25 years old,
with two master degrees from top American universities. Asides her primary education, the rest of her learning process was in the
United States.
She was very brilliant and passionate about success. A computer engineering expert, she had also acquired certifications in business
management and entrepreneurship. A dreamer and an achiever, Nike; highly intelligent, passionate and knowledgeable; would blow the
mind of anyone with ideas and could intimidate anyone who isn’t very confident or knowledgeable. Nike was very beautiful too; tall,
fair, bright eyes and her strength were in her strong and husky voice; very arresting and intimidating.
She has a good body and could make any outfit no matter how drab look pretty nice; she wore them good like that.
Rotimi and Nike were introduced and from that moment on they struck a chemistry that made them inseparable.
Within the first six months of their meeting they became extremely close and did nearly everything together. Nike worked in the IT
department of an American oil and gas company based in Lagos as a computer engineer and was doing pretty well in career too.
Rotimi, feel in love and from that point onward he began to consider marrying Nike.
After a year, the duo had become so close they did and shared everything in common. Subsequently, Nike moved out of her guardian’s
house in Lekki and moved into Rotimi’s house in Ikeja GRA. They became live in lovers. They were happy together and liked the idea of
cohabiting until Nike discovered after 12 weeks of moving in that she had taken in; she was pregnant.
Rotimi was initially shocked and taken aback but after thinking about it for a while, he began to calm down. His parents had been
waiting for him to get married and bear them grandchildren and here is one on the way; of course they’ll be happy and immediately
he told Nike they should start planning towards their marriage ceremony.
Nike was not as excited; she had kept a secret from Rotimi all the while; Her father happens to be one of the most prominent and
respected traditional rulers from the western part of the country; in fact he is so known all over the country. He is a very, very rich,
powerful and popular traditional ruler. Nike took his first name as her surname; hence Rotimi didn’t suspect anything.
For Nike, the problem is, Rotimi is not the kind of man her family would approve of as a husband, no money, no fame, no reputation
– the son of a common teacher they would say. According to her, marrying him would be perceived as a scorn or ridicule to their
royalty. Worse still, she’s pregnant.
Rotimi began to sweat; why didn’t you tell me all this? He shouted at Nike, confused, ‘ I didn’t want you to know or treat me
different, or see me in that light, it will affect the way you relate with me that’s why I kept it a secret’. She retorted.
‘You mean that powerful man is your father? I’m in trouble?’ Rotimi said, as though talking to himself.
I’m sorry Nike, you’ll have to abort this pregnancy; I don’t think I’m in any way ready for all this; this revelation is beyond what I
or my parents can handle, sorry let me go for my class, you’re way out of my class.’ Rotimi said to her.
Nike laughed out loud, in agony, with tears in her eyes! That’s impossible she told him calmly, I can’t, it’s a taboo, it’s forbidden,
I’m a princess, if I attempt it, I’ll die. We are not permitted to abort as royals. I dare not take the life of even an unborn royal
blood.
Rotimi got off the bed and sat on the bare floor of his bedroom away from Nike; he looked at the roof and looked at the floor. Nike
you have killed me; my life is over.
This happened a month earlier, Rotimi afterwards trying hard to face his reality. Nike is pregnant, she’s royal, she’s rich, he
impregnated, her, he’s common blood, he’s poor – no name, no reputation, no power, no influence.
When he travelled two weeks ago to inform his parents of all that’s happened, his mother began to weep immediately, when we asked
you to bring home a wife, we didn’t ask you to bring home this much trouble with it. She retorted, breaking down. His father now
retired as a principal was quiet; he said nothing, but his heart was pounding and he was visibly shaken.
‘So what do we do? I don’t even have a house of my own, I have no car. How do we match this family? How do we avert shame and
disgrace? This is beyond what I can handle Rotimi, its way beyond my power.’ His father lamented.
Rotimi was jolted out of his thoughts and worry, when a tall, heavily built man entered his office and bellowed a ‘hi son, how is work
going’ in Yoruba language.
Rotimi stood up immediately, Prince Adedapo is one of the oldest suppliers of spare parts to their company, he is a personal friend to
both the managing director and the finance director, he was well known in the business and everyone treated him with respect and high
regard.
Prince Adedapo sat opposite Rotimi and began to speak. Young man, I believe you didn’t forget the discussion we had last week. You
must favour me this year o, I’m bringing in a lot of parts and I’d expect you’ll purchase from me. My business isn’t doing very well
now; most of the companies I supply have shut down and left the country, only very few of you are left, please support me on this.
Sir, you need not appeal to me on this, I will do my best sir. I promise. Rotimi responded.
Prince Adedapo looked at Rotimi, look son, he said in low tones, I can make you very rich, you’ll make millions on this seat if you can
collaborate with me; you’re not a small boy you know exactly what I’m talking about and you know what to do.
Sir, Rotimi began to speak standing up, you’ve made this kind of offer in time past several times and I’ve made it very clear I’m not
that kind of person. I’m honest and I have integrity, I wouldn’t take a bribe and would not compromise. I’m sorry sir, I’ll do my best
but I’m not interested in your offer, I’d rather lose this job than compromise on my principles and integrity. Good day sir.
Prince Adedapo looked at him, smiled got up and left his office.
One week later, Rotimi, his parents and a few relatives approached a very big and beautiful palace somewhere in the western part of
Nigeria for the initial introduction before the engagement and wedding ceremony.
They were all, tensed, afraid and confused as they approached the palace. Immediately they entered the palace premises, they were met
by an intimidating number of very high profile traditional individuals; haughty in looks and snobbish in attitude.
‘Come in Kabiyesi has been expecting you,’ one of the women said without any initial greetings. They all walked towards the king’s
visitors chamber to meet with him, Rotimi’s father’s elder brother led, followed by Rotimi’s parents then him.
They entered the visitor’s court and all prostrated and knelt down to courtesy the king.
Kabiyesi didn’t respond, he was indifferent, the oloris did respond and some palace chiefs though, this attitude really made Rotimi and
his family feel little and unhappy.
Just then from the inner chamber of the King, a tall and huge man came out; looked at the visitors, paused suddenly and looked
again, ‘Rotimi’, he bellowed! ‘It is you? You impregnated my niece’, it was Prince Adedapo, the spare parts supplier for his company,
‘prince, good afternoon sir!’ Rotimi greeted stammering. ‘Rotimi, you impregnated my niece, Kabiyesi is my elder brother’ Prince
Adedapo announced to him.
Suddenly Prince Adedapo began to laugh, he turned to Kabiyesi and said, ‘ your highness, we are lucky, I know Rotimi more than
anyone else here, he is a very responsible gentleman, honest, decent with integrity, he’s the kind of man Nike should marry, I assure
you your highness, this is a blessing! His royal highness for the first time looked at Rotimi, and called his name, ‘sir?’ Rotimi
responded, prostrating flat on the floor, ‘My brother says you’re a good boy, I trust his judgment, welcome home, you can all have your
seats’, kabiyesi concluded and began to smile, at that point Nike came out of the inner chamber followed by her own mother and she
ran towards Rotimi, everyone busted out laughing.
Ladies and gentlemen, Rotimi was under pressure to live up to certain standards and expectations to impress his, would be in laws but
his determination didn’t become desperation; he made the right decisions even when it was really difficult and at the end of the day, it
served him right.
Becoming successful and a great achiever require being principled and committed to doing the right thing even if it’s tough.
Every compromise in life has been greeted with frustration and regret.
Resolve in your mind not to bow to any pressure you face in life today. Stand for honesty and integrity and you’ll experience the
ultimate uplift though life.
Ladies and gentlemen, think it, do it, achieve it and be the ultimate, it’s all in your mind!!!

WORK PHONE

The phone bill was exceptionally high and the man of the house called for
meeting… on a Sunday morning… after breakfast…
Dad: People this is unacceptable. OK I do not use this phone, I use the one at
the office But You too have to limit the use of the phone.
Mum: Same here, I hardly use this home telephone as I use my work telephone.
Son: Me too, I never use the home phone. I always use my company mobile.
All of them now in a state of shock and together they look at their maid who
until now is patiently listening to them.
Maid (un baffled): So – what is the problem? We all use our work telephones!

ME TOO.

The Japan’s prime minister, Yoshihiko Noda was poor in English language.
Hence one month before going to USA,to visit President Obama, he was given
some Basic English Conversation training.
The instructor told Yoshihiko, “ Prime Minister, when you shake hands with
President Obama, please say, ‘How are you?’
Then Mr. Obama will say, ‘I’m fine, and you?’
Now you should say, ‘Me too.’
Afterwards we, translators, will do all the work for you.”
It looked quite simple and Yoshihikio was quite confident.
When he met Obama, he mistakenly said, “Who are you?”
Mr.Obama was obviously shocked but still managed to react with humor: “Well,
I am Michele’s husband, hahahahaha…..”
Then Yoshihiko replied confidently, “Me too, hahahaha…. hahaha….”
Then there was a long silence in the meeting room.

TIME

The trouble with being punctual is that nobody's there to appreciate it.
- Franklin P. Jones

I WAS ONCE MOLESTED BY A PRIEST. Lola Omotayo Okoye

Lola Omotayo recently revealed at the Kinabuti Dare2Dream
Project in Lagos a secret part of her life to help out young girls
at the project.
Lola revealed that when she was in her secondary school days,
she was molested by a priest and she could not tell anyone in
her family.
Lola Omotayo
She said that the situation repeated itself in a former
relationship before finally meeting Peter of P-Square and then
getting married.
Excerpts of her speech below…
“You shouldn’t let your past determine what your destiny will be, we
all have our past whether good or bad or makes us unhappy, we all
had a life that we lived that we are not happy about, you shouldn’t
let it bother you from succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school, I was
molested by a catholic priest, i blamed myself, i didn’t tell anyone
because i was ashamed, couldn’t tell anyone cos i felt everyone
would blame me, so i carried on the guilt and bitterness with me for
years. I was filled with hate and i became a angry person, i was
rebellious, i didn’t want to listen to anybody…and because i wanted
to be expelled from school to avoid seeing this person, i would do so
many terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, i
felt i wasn’t good enough….
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life and i’m
like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me…and then he started to abuse
me….i was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in
public and at a point i felt, you know what I am not worthy enough,
there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but i hid
this from my family….i felt like a loser..so it was hard for me to
focus..so one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story
and i dumped that person, focus on my education and decided to be
serious and be something….i decided to get a job and go to school
full time in America…
I worked hard…my parents were sending me money cos I didn’t tell
them i was working but i was working because i wanted to be
independent…I didn’t want to depend on any man or on my parents
even though they would have done anything for me…so i did all sorts
of job, i was a make up artiste, i worked in a cafe, school library, i
did so many things and i didn’t realise that these jobs were building
me up as a person, building my resume, my confidence….people
began to like me because i was adding value to their lives….at work i
was excellent and so was i in school and that built me as a strong
woman…and at some point, i sought counseling to get over my
molestation issues where i was made to see reasons why i wasn’t at
fault cos i was a child then…today I am accomplished.
You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to believe
in yourself, if they reject you today, it doesn’t mean you should let
your dreams die, you have something unique about you.
Look at my husband, when i met him peeps were like what are you
doing with him, he has nothing but i stood my ground and choose to
stick with him cos he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not
let their dream die, they worked hard..look at them today! I stuck by
him cos he had focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good
life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can
make you a loser.”
Lola is married to Peter Okoye of the P-square fame, they have
two kids together.

"OREMI ATATA" My very hood friend.

There was this petty trader at Orile Agege whom we called “iya
kekere” because of her height. I believe she was an ajase
woman. She sold sweet and stuff like that on our street, she
would not stop calling me oremi timo timo or oremi atata [my
very good friend] with glowing enthusiasm, at first I liked it and I
would stop to buy unnecessary things from her .
It goes on for many months until one day, a supposed friend of
mine made a joke out of it that “you’re a close friend of this
woman? [laughingly]” I didn’t say anything but started to feel
uncomfortable towards iya kekere. it started to become an
embarrassment whenever she called me so, I started to think
how should I be a close friend to her really? Firstly, I was
avoiding her by taking another route because I usually would
pass through her every morning when I was going to uni.
After a certain period, I couldn’t bear the stress of the route
anymore, I thought I would have to tell her to stop calling me her
close friend that I just do not like it and that everything else was
fine. The next morning, I made my way towards her, as she saw
me, she actually screamed because she had not seen me for
awhile, she shouted oreeemi ooo, I was so upset, I angrily
instructed her never to call me so again in her life. She was
shocked and was not sure if I was in the right mood. I further
told her she’s been disgracing me for awhile and that she
should just call me Bukky and that I couldn’t possibly be her
close friend.
I could see the shock on her face but I really didn’t care as I
left.
3 days later. I was asleep, I heard a very loud noise on my door
and I woke up. It was iya kekere shouting “ina ina ina”[fire!
fire!!] I didn’t know what was happening she just dragged me
out of the building through the back door. It was hell of a smoke
and I didn’t gain my consciousness properly as she dragged me
hurriedly out.
When we got outside, a massive crowd was waiting for us,
everyone rushed to me and said our house was on fire and that
the stairs and corridor were not accessible and they knew I was
in my room. They had been shouting my name, throwing stones
at my window but I did not wake.
They probably gave up on me but not until when my petty trader
friend came and heard I was in the burning house, I was told she
went crazy, she shouted Oreeemi ooo [exclamation], and
insisted that she must come fetch me. How she went through
raging fire I don’t know but she saved my life that day. My
supposed friend that asked if I was truly iya kekere’s close
friend was outside when iya kekere’s made efforts to rescue
me.
After I gained full consciousness and I had known what was
happening, I looked at Iya kekere, she was crying and she came
to hug me so tight. my eyes were gushing out water like a
running tap. She uttered "oremi"! i almost collapsed by hearing
that. i intensified the hug, i could only say eehn mondayin lohun
[yes, i'm answering you] she further said adupe emi, olohun
koni gba e lowo awon obi e [thank God for your life, may death
not snatch you from your parents]. I could not utter a word
anymore. I was just crying. Everyone else thought I was crying
because of belongings or so. But I was crying because i once
told my great friend not to call me her close friend again.
My dad soon came, running to my house barefooted from where
he parked his car. He took me away in his car. I told him what
had happened and how I was rescued, he immediately turned
back to meet her, but we were told she had left as it was raining
anyway.
We returned there the next morning but iya kekere never turned
up anymore. Information I heard was when she came to rescue
me, she left her goods behind and some thugs stole them all.
My family made frantic effort to locate her but to no avail. This
is about 15 years now.
My heart is full of apologies, she was ready to sacrifice her life
for me. It wasn’t that others didn’t like me, it’s just that iya
kekere’s love for me was at another level . My pastor said I
would still meet her which I am happy about. Iya kekere is my
own close friend wherever she is. I LOVE YOU IYA KEKERE AND
YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND
Please do not disregard people who show you genuine love, a
friend in need is a friend indeed. I live to regret the day I asked
her not to call me her close friend anymore.
By: Bukola Adebowale -27 Dec. 2012
May we not drive away our helpers
Amin.

My friend Nathaniel Bassey- yeah, remember him the gospel artist has this to
share with us.
Nathaniel Bassey
GOD IS REAL. GOD IS SO REAL. Read this.
I'm in Akwa Ibom for the State Carol service this weekend.
Having breakfast with another music minister, ELMAFREX, and
he shared a testimony that made me kneel and shed tears in
the restaurant.
For 28years Elmafrex was the only son of his father and
mother, who are both ministers in The redeemed christian
church of God. About 3 years ago, they both went for the
special Holy Ghost service at the redemption camp that takes
place in March.
Pastor E A Adeboye during the service declared that those
believing God for the fruit of the womb could go ahead to ask
God for children. The couple independently asked for certain
number of children. The wife asked for 3 children, while the
husband asked for 2.
Anyway, not too long, after 28years of waiting, the woman
conceived and gave birth to a baby boy. That was a miracle
right? But wait for this. She went back home and felt uneasy
within her. And after six weeks returned to conduct a scan,
only to realize there were more children inside.
She later gave birth to 4 girls. YES! 4 GIRLS!!!
Now, remember she asked for 3, while the her husband asked
for 2. And God did just that. If this God is not almighty, then
tell me what or who He is.
This is not a fable, neither is it a myth. The guy in the picture

with me is the ELMAFREX I'm talking about. A gospel musician
based in Scotland. He used to be at my wife's former church in
EKET, the youth assembly, where I met my wife.
This God is too good o!
I've been so moved and inspired by this testimony, and
therefore stand to prophecy to anyone out there desirous of a
miracle from God, that this same almighty God that does great
things will do that which no man can do for you in Jesus
name. And by this time next year, you will return to this
platform to share your own testimony to the glory of his name.
In Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
Please share this to as much people as possible to build faith
in God.

WISE WORDS. BRAD PIT ABOUT HIS WIFE.

Wise words. Brad Pitt about his WIFE:
"My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of
problems at work, personal life, her failures and children. She lost
30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds. She got very skinny
and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman. She had
suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed
nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep
only in the mornings and got tired very quickly during the day. Our
relationship was on the verge of a break up. Her beauty was
leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was
poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself. She refused
to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought
that we’ll get separated soon… But then I decided to act. After all
I’ve got the MOST Beautiful Woman on earth. She is the idol of
more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one
allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her. I began to
shower her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised and
pleased her every minute. I gave her a lot of gifts and lived just for
her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in
her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual
friends. You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became
better. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and loved me
even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.
And then I realized one thing: the woman is the reflection of her
man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it."
-Brad Pitt

Dear Heartrendings

My friend Nathaniel Bassey- yeah, remember him the gospel artist has this to
share with us.
Nathaniel Bassey
GOD IS REAL. GOD IS SO REAL. Read this.
I'm in Akwa Ibom for the State Carol service this weekend.
Having breakfast with another music minister, ELMAFREX, and
he shared a testimony that made me kneel and shed tears in
the restaurant.
For 28years Elmafrex was the only son of his father and
mother, who are both ministers in The redeemed christian
church of God. About 3 years ago, they both went for the
special Holy Ghost service at the redemption camp that takes
place in March.
Pastor E A Adeboye during the service declared that those
believing God for the fruit of the womb could go ahead to ask
God for children. The couple independently asked for certain
number of children. The wife asked for 3 children, while the
husband asked for 2.
Anyway, not too long, after 28years of waiting, the woman
conceived and gave birth to a baby boy. That was a miracle
right? But wait for this. She went back home and felt uneasy
within her. And after six weeks returned to conduct a scan,
only to realize there were more children inside.
She later gave birth to 4 girls. YES! 4 GIRLS!!!
Now, remember she asked for 3, while the her husband asked
for 2. And God did just that. If this God is not almighty, then
tell me what or who He is.
This is not a fable, neither is it a myth. The guy in the picture
with me is the ELMAFREX I'm talking about. A gospel musician
based in Scotland. He used to be at my wife's former church in
EKET, the youth assembly, where I met my wife.
This God is too good o!
I've been so moved and inspired by this testimony, and
therefore stand to prophecy to anyone out there desirous of a
miracle from God, that this same almighty God that does great
things will do that which no man can do for you in Jesus
name. And by this time next year, you will return to this
platform to share your own testimony to the glory of his name.
In Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
Please share this to as much people as possible to build faith
in God.

THE MOMENT YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR. part 2

So later that evening just when you had managed to get your mind off things, a text comes into your phone. And as you read it you keep flashing back to what happened in the job you had quit.

    Dear sir, We are happy to inform you that we have finished reviewing your result. However...*Heart rate goes up and flashes of you standing outside your old office and waiting to be late on purpose*.....We regret to inform you that....*flashes of the back of your managers head*.....we cannot have you .....*flashes of the sack letter*.....In our company....*Flashes of the dirty slap you gave your manager*....We do not see you fit for the position you applied for....*intense headache and running stomach*....Thank you for applying and have a wonderful day ......*Big flash of your village people congratulating your manger on a job well done*. This last image is going to linger for a while so be prepared.


So right now you are jobless, well not the real you of cos, the you in the story is the jobless one now. You have no way of going back to your old job and you have evidently failed at this new job opportunity. What hurts most is actually that you have waited for this job for a long time and you ended up screwing it up. So you head back to your house and pour yourself a glass of wine and drift away in thoughts. You keep wondering what went wrong, why you couldn't answer well. It's not like you panicked, but something had gone wrong definitely. Was it the village people and your manager you wonder to yourself as that image still lingers in your head. Well as you battle with that in your head, let me tell you something.

But first of all let me ask you a question, where you really prepared for the test? Look back at this story and understand something. This man was hopeful yes, he had faith and all. But along the line of waiting for so long, even though he hoped for the job, he stopped preparing himself for the opportunity. He stopped studying and trying to improve himself in the field that he really wanted, he left the knife that is his skill to dull. It's like an artist that gets a job at a bank then one day he or she is called for a competition. The winners work would be displayed in the national museum and the person would be placed on a monthly salary for years to come. The artist has a few days to draw and starts up only to discover that he or she wasn't good enough on the day of presentation because of lack of constant practice.

So I say this to you now, no matter where you are. Whether you are sitting at an annoying job and cursing out for having to work at your sorry excuse of a job when you know your true potential. Or wasting away at home with no job at all when you know that someone who doesn't deserve it is holding a position you would fill up and handle efficiently at a company you have dreamed your entire life of. If you aren't steadily preparing for an opportunity when it knocks, you would lose it when it comes.

Always polish up on your skills and wait for when you would need them. Do not let yourself get rusty. Your faith and hope at an opportunity in life shouldn't stop at just watching and waiting, preparation is very much required. So if you are waiting for something right now, then do not be the you in this story I have been telling. Practice as often as you can, do not procrastinate. Learn to stay in love with your passion and keep greasing up your parts for the day the automobile that is you, is selected for a test run. Some opportunities knock only once and it could be the opportunity of a lifetime. Do not let that ONE opportunity pass you by because you weren't ready. Start preparing now and always stay prepared.

.....So now you realize that even though your village people had a hand in this, you also contributed a great deal. But do not worry, all hope isn't lost. This should only come as a lesson to you. Now that you have learnt it, I think you should drop you cup of wine. Get up and start preparing today for something new and possibly even bigger, some opportunities might knock more than once and other times your screw up today only happened so you would learn a lesson and prepare for something bigger tomorrow. Stay hopeful my friends, tomorrow is another day

The moment you've been waiting for.

So family, yeah you reading this right now, you are family so don't look over your shoulder searching for who I am talking about. You have been abducted and you are part of us now. I am talking about both you and the person behind you, yes so you at the back stop looking at me like that. You are family also. Anyway grab a snack and listen to this.
     Picture this scenario, you are done with school and you always had a dream job in your head. You want to work with shell, Google, Julius Berger or any other big company out there. So you put in your application and you stay waiting for them to approve it. Time passes by and you wonder why they haven't gotten back to you. You get depressed after long months or years of waiting and now you just have to settle for something because you can't go hungry of cos. A job opportunity in a small firm is open and you apply.
Fortunately or unfortunately for you depending on how you look at it, you become among the few selected to work at this little firm that overworks and underpays their staff. But you have no choice and you just have to wait it out and hope that one day your letter is answered. Now that is called having hope and you have the hope aspect of your life checked out of your list right? Alright cool. At this your new job frustration is setting in because of the way things are going and you just know that you are over qualified for this job and yet underpaid and as if that isn't enough, your boss gives you the worst attitude you could ever think of. But you know you do not have a choice and you just have to remain at this job,at least until you get that job you are still waiting for, while taking all the insults from this your boss. Now that is called being patient, and so with that we can say that apart from you cursing out in the bathroom each time you go to use the convenience, you have your patience in check right? Okay moving on...

One day on a Monday morning you are grumpily headed to work with your dusty suit that you do not bother to take care of anymore and murmuring to yourself how horrible the day would most likely be at work. When you receive a call. An unknown caller I.D, you don't usually pick unknown numbers but what the slam, why not just pick this one. So you hit the answer button and a voice comes through the ear piece.

  "Hello is this Mr Bleh, This is Mr bleh bleh, the manager of employments at Berger. We have reviewed your application and we are happy to tell you that sumtin sumtin sumtin, blah blah sumtin blah interview date on the bleh of bleh two thousand and bleh, your bleh blah blah blah. Thank you and hope to see you there"

I'm sure you all get the gist. So an interview date has been set for the next day! Your head is spinning from joy and you just can't contain yourself so you get to work and you do your job exceptionally well that day and no matter the attitude your boss gives you, you just keep smiling at him and you leave him wondering what is up with you today. Or maybe if you choose, you get to your office on time and stand outside whistling just to make sure you are late on purpose, your manager wants to shout because of this and you slap his mouth to the back of his face before he can complete the first word. He calls you to the office and wants to hand you a sack letter and you give him another resounding palm to cheek caress then drop your resignation letter. Bad Guy!!! Ok na let's keep going.

So the next day is here and it's time for the interview and you step into the hall for it. But then something odd is happening, this funny feeling in your stomach won't go away. You are asked the first question, a simple question but you can't provide any answer. The man on suit moves on and asks you a different answer and yet you fumble, a third question comes your way and you decide to answer this one and give the wrongest answer ever heard. You are asked to identify a machine that you clearly know but you just can't remember the name. What is happening to you? Is it the years of being out of practice? Or did your manager connive with your village people under these few hours to bring you down. Either way this interview is not going good at all.

Let's continue this later.(wink wink)

A GREAT STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION

Am up tonight with lots of joy in my heart doing the one thing I have ever dreamt of doing, ''Giving a voice to the voiceless and putting smiles on the faces of those who have been treated unfairly, cheated, betrayed, denied justice, accused of doing things they knew nothing about... and all the hurtful things you can think of.
Cheer up dear friend, help has finally come. Lets talk about those life issues you wouldn't share with anyone for fear of stigmatisation and being labelled with that situation. We are here to give you all the counsel you need and ofcos if it goes beyond human comprehension, we'll take it to God who is the master of impossibilities.

WELCOME TO MY WORLD OF ''HEARTRENDINGS''.