HAPPY NEW MONTH. Welcome to the month of luv

This is the month of Love so make sure to show some of it anywhere you go. It's not just about you and your partner if you have one. It's about everyone around you. The strangers, your family, co workers, school mates and generally anyone at all.

Here is something you can do this week or maybe we should use it as this months focus. Try an act of charity. Give something to someone that needs it, anyone at all. Just make sure to make a reasonable impact on someones life before the end of the month.

ARE OMISSIONS ALSO LIES?

Good morning everyone, how's you all doing today. Something actually crossed my mind out of who knows where and I decided to talk about it this morning and of cos as usual get your own opinions on the matter. So the topic is on Lies and Omissions in relationships.

So let's say you're in a relationship now and probably doing something that you know that is wrong or that would cause an issue between you and your partner. It could be something that you both just don't agree on, it mustn't be morally wrong but that isn't an exception either. Very few people are able to keep tackling the issue head on until an understanding or conclusion is reached. While a whole lot of people either fall back to Lies or Omissions. Now I know you all know the meaning but let me still explain a little still.





Lies: This is when you openly tell a lie to your partner for reasons best known to you. Either to protect yourself, the information you refuse to release, deceive your partner into believing something else or protect the relationship form any harm that the truth might cause.


Omissions:  This is when you knowingly leave out an information or a particular detail of an event that might or will put you in trouble in your relationship.

So now let me paint a picture for you guys...


Take for instance, you go out with friends and amongst those friends there is a certain someone that your partner normally wouldn't approve you to go out with.Not like you invited the person to the hang out but the person is there. Now your partner asks how your day was and you simply say "fine". Your partner asks, "did you go anywhere " and you reply with "yes, I went out with friends and it was fun". Your partner asks after your friends that you were to hang out with one by one and you respond. Now your partner didn't ask about that particular friend and so you didn't tell...right? Yet deep inside you, you know that you weren't meant to go anywhere with that person and that it was only right to let your partner know what you did. However since he didn't ask anything, you didn't say anything. So to you, you believe that "you didn't tell a lie"
   Now also picture when mistakenly, something goes wrong and you just somehow happen have a fall out with this person that you've been warned against. Your partner still doesn't come out to ask "Did you have a fall out with Me. A or Mrs. B?" so as usual you still won't have to say anything.  So right now, "you still didn't tell a lie" Right? Alright cool. However remember that bringing technicalities into a relationship and trying to play mind games is one of the sneakiest ways to quickly destroy your relationship. Relationships aren't like businesses that you can use technicalities and details of contract to bend the rules in order for them to suit you. Turning your relationship into a game, a mind game can wreck things for you and your partner.

I believe that even though an omission doesn't technically mean a lie, it is still a lie of some sort. It is callled a 'lie of omission'. Now of cos "technically" you didn't come out straight and deceive your partner with the wrong information but I also believe that the fact that you know right from wrong, and still chose to do wrong tells a lot.
           I read a meme online saying that cheating doesn't mean that you went to sleep with someone outside your relationship, that as long as you have found yourself hiding your text messages, then you are already cheating. This is exactly the same thing that applies when it comes to lies of omission. Simply because you left out an information doesn't justify anything.

Another thing about omissions is that even if you do it for the sake of peace, it could lead you into temptation. For example, picture the scenario I painted above about you going out with someone and with time you start having an affair with the person while 'omitting it from conversations'. I strongly believe that it's because you gave room for the so called omissions, that is the reason why with time you have become comfortable with the mind state of "What they don't know wouldn't hurt them". Through that mind state you are now able to do whatever you like with no boundaries while giving yourself the excuse of 'omitting the details'.

The lie of omission starts out as a very little lie that you can classify as not being a lie at all but could lead you into many different things. Always remember that playing games in your relationship is very dangerous. Try to be honest and build trust. Even if you keep fighting with your partner over issues, it's best to fight it out than to destroy trust through lies. A relationship built on lies is just fiction in my own opinion.


Now my question here is this...

To you, whether you are the one being omitted to (if their is such English) or the one doing the omission. Do you consider an omission as a lie? Have you ever done this in your relationship? What would be your reaction if your partner were to do this?

MYTH, WEDDING RINGS ARE HANDCUFFS.

Have you ever come across this saying.... "A wedding ring is the small handcuff ever...so choose your cell mate wisely and sentence yourself carefully". Yeah I bet if you have been on any social media for the past year or so then you must have seen it once or twice. Well this isn't the truth. We are going to be debunking this one today.




In all honesty, their are restrictions that will apply once you get married but it depends on a lot of things. Not everything you used to do would be easy to back to. This is mostly because of different reasons that range from personal choices, responsibility, growth and maturity, change in character and of cos restriction from your spouse. Yes even though I am debunking the myth I won't lie and say that there aren't spouses that might cause you to change a couple of things.

Here is the thing, you always have a choice in life. You can choose to be happy, you can choose to be sad, you can choose to be married or to be single. And just the same way you have these choices, so do you get to choose the person you are going to be with. Marriage won't feel like a prison to you if you get married to someone that you truly understand and that truly understands you. Yes! look at what I said, someone that you understand and that truly understands you. A common mistake people make these days is getting too caught up in trying to please themselves that they forget their partner. People tend to forget that for things to move smoothly, there has to be consideration from the both parties. Now if you find someone that has a good understanding towards you and vice-versa, even though duties and responsibilities might come up and restrict you from doing a couple of things once in a whil, you are hardly going to feel it because you will be happy.

Finally I'll like to tell you guys this....Remember what I keep telling you guys about mind state? Most things you do in this life especially how you feel towards certain things are all based on your mind state. If you have in your mind that marriage is going to be like prison. Yes, you might feel like you are bracing yourself and preparing yourself for marriage and everything it has to offer and I admit, depending on who you are with, you might be right. However by keeping that mind state, you would have already sentenced yourself to a restricted and frustrating marriage even before you get into it. The dangerous part of this is that people who think like this often end up unhappy and feeling caged in even when they aren't being restricted by their partner. You should learn to keep a positive mind because a negative one would have a negative impact on your emotions regardless of any positive action your spouse might take.

Learn to open your heart and mind to positivity, learn to choose happiness, I can honestly tell you that marriage isn't as bad as people paint it to be. Choose your partner well, there might be bad days but hey! who doesn't have bad days even on their own. Marriage is bound to have it's bad days but conditioning your mind that marriage is going to be like  prison is going to make it feel just like that for you. In the long run you are going to end up frustrated and frustrate your spouse out of the marriage.

ANOTHER LOVE STORY THAT YOU'RE FAMILIAR WITH.

think we all have experienced this love story. My question is why is it always the small toe that falls in love with the table. L